How To Increase Your Worth

How To Increase Your Worth


Welcome to lesson 4 of the BeeFriend course! In our previous lesson we learned about an
extremely important rule that we have to keep in mind to make sure that we’re making friends
and not enemies. In today’s lesson we’re going to talk about
a powerful concept that has the potential to 2x , 3x, heck even 5x, the speed of which
you make friends. Let’s imagine for a second that above every
single person’s head – is a number that represents how much they are worth. This is a concept that is often referred to
as value. And as shallow as it seems, as much as we’d
like to think we don’t do this, we are all automatically assigning values to the people
around us. See our brain and also the brains of most
other mammals have evolved to do this because it allows us to create a hierarchy in our
heads. It allows us to figure out who the most powerful
person in the room is. Who we should try to gain the favor of and
also who isn’t so useful and can be ignored. This was important because for millions of
years we humans used to live in tight knit groups. If you couldn’t identify and gain the approval
of the people with the highest values in this group, the people who were in charge, the
ones with the most power, your life would be at risk. Now you’re probably wondering. Improvement Pill that’s nice to know and all
but how in the world does this relate to befriending people? Well the higher your perceived value is in
comparison to the people around you, the easier it will be for you to befriend others. People will want to be your friend before
even meeting you. They will want to win your favor. However, if your value is too low – you
will have a much harder time making friends. In fact, people might even start ignoring
you. Now this brings up 2 questions. Number one how exactly do we determine what
our current value is? And number 2 what can we do to increase it? Well there are 3 categories of things that
humans look at when determining how much someone is worth. We’ll briefly go through each one and also
talk about what you can do to improve each of these areas. The first category is Looks. Someones physical appearance. We look at hygiene. Whether or not someone is well groomed. If you look and smell like you haven’t showered
in weeks your perceived value will be much lower. Go take a shower, get a haircut, do your laundry,
clip your nails, and take care of yourself. Because if you look like you can’t even take
care of yourself you’ll look like someone who can’t help take care of others. We look at physical attractiveness which can
be broken down into two parts. The first are indicators of health. If you’re extremely overweight, if you look
sick, if you look extremely tired – your perceived value is lower. This is because you look like someone that
will drag down the group. Hit the gym, fix your diet, and get proper
sleep. The second type of physical attractiveness
that we look for are good genetics which means you can produce healthy offspring. This has value because the only way we can
continue the human civilization is by producing offspring that survive into adulthood. So we instinctively look for things like symmetry
of the face for both genders, height, wide shoulders, and jaw line if your a guy, hip
to waist ratio, breast size, and youthfulness if your a girl. This is a touchy subject because many of these
things are impossible to change. You can’t really change things like your height
or the symmetry of your face. But the good news is that these factors are
only part of the puzzle. If you focus on everything else that can increase
your value you can still become someone of very very high value. For example it’s possible to get wider shoulders
and increase muscle mass by going to the gym. You can also use fashion to your advantage. Which is the final thing that we look for
in regards to Looks. The objects and clothing that you wear can
compliment the features of your body. Someone who is short can look taller, Someone
who is a chubby can look more muscular, someone who has poor face symmetry can create the
illusion of symmetry by using clothes and accessories to their advantage. The next category of things we look for in
order to determine someones value is Status. Essentially how much power they have. We look for indicators of wealth. Money is is literally a piece of paper that
has an assigned value. You can trade that paper for food. You can trade that paper for a house. This is why people like to talk about money
as an indicator of success because the more money you make the more valuable you technically
are. However, it’s not like you can just pull out
your bank statement and show that everyone you meet. Wealth is something that is best subtlety
conveyed. Fashion plays a big role, things like jewelry
and watches, but also how generous you are are all indicators of wealth. But it’s important to note that wealth is
something that is valued much more in developing countries as compared to modern ones. For example in NYC you won’t be impressing
anyone by wearing a fancy watch and flashing a couple hundreds. In fact people will most likely roll their
eyes at you. But in a developing country that’s a pretty
big deal. Either way it’s still important to have your
finances in tact because if you’re dirt broke you won’t be able to bring anything to the
table. Instead you’d be force to become a taker of
value, someone who needs the help of others to survive. People who can only take are immediately seen
as low value. Think about most homeless people. They are virtually invisible because they
are forced to beg for help. The next thing we look for in regards to Status
is someone’s career. We look for signs that tell us what sort of
role this person plays in the setting that we’re in. For example if you’re in hospital the guy
who is dressed like a surgeon is going to have more value than the guy dressed like
a nurse. If you’re in a night club the DJ is going
to have more value than some random dude on the dance floor. And finally the last thing we look for is
social proof. Basically how many friends you already have
and also how well known you are. If somebody walks into the room and everyone
says hi to them and they’re all smiling you wonder to yourself “wow who is that guy”
– but if someone walks into the room and just sits in the corner and plays with his phone
you don’t think anything of him. Social proof is one of the 2 most powerful
indicators of value. If a lot of people know you – you’re essentially
a celebrity and it doesn’t really matter what you look like or how much money you have – people
will automatically want to interact with you because of your fame. So if you’re not the best looking guy you
can still increase your value tremendously by simply learning how to befriend everyone
around you – which is essentially the purpose of this course. Before we get to the final area for determining
someones value – I do want to mention something very quickly. Going through a video course like the BeeFriend
Course of the Tamed Course is very powerful but it’s nothing compared to the results you’ll
get from a one-on-one coaching program. If you’re someone who really wants to change
and you’re willing to invest in yourself please sign up for my mailing list using the link
in the description box below to learn more about my upcoming coaching services. The final area we look at when determining
someones value is their demeanor, how they act. Your demeanor is equally as important as your
social proof. We look at body language. Whether or not someone has open or closed
body language. Things like good posture, an open chest, and
uncrossed arms are all indicators that you are relaxed. The more relaxed you look the higher your
perceived value will be. Because people who are relaxed tend to be
the people at the top. We’ll dive deeper into proper body language
later on in the course. Next up – we listen to someones voice and
tonality. If you have a high pitched voice it means
that your body is tense. You aren’t relaxed. And like we mentioned before if you don’t
seem relaxed your perceived value will be lower. There’s also going to be an in-depth video
on voice and tonality later on in the course. And finally the last thing we look at is something
called Frame. This is a rather complicated concept but to
sum it up it’s basically how easily effected you are by outside conditions. For example if someone was to make fun of
you, are you the type of person who would easily get offended or are you someone who
would just laugh because you don’t care. The stronger your frame is, the less you are
effected by outside factors, the more confident you seem in yourself. Which will increase your value. Think of value as a multiplier in front of
our equation so far. If you are someone who has an extremely high
value such as a celebrity you can literally befriend others 10x faster than normal people. I’m not saying you have to become a celebrity,
but you should definitely work on improving your overall value in order to 2x or even
3x the speed of which you make friends. This is a double edged sword because if you
let yourself go and let your value drop you will have to work twice or even 3 times as
hard as the average joe in order to befriend people. In our next video we’re going start the next
portion of the course. Which is all about body language. Body language is the most important factor
you need to keep in mind when it comes to initially making friends. If you don’t do it right you won’t find any
success. So make sure you subscribe, hit that bell
icon, and stay tuned.

100 Comments

  • Improvement Pill says:

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  • Hush Hush says:

    Just be yourself and the right people will come to you.

  • ART emis says:

    I have a couple friends in highschool… although i m not that outgoing and i m generally concious about my appearance and how i look to others. One of those things is my height cause i know that a tall guy is more attractive, and i m like the second shorter one in my class (1,74 cm)…

    Still trying to be positive

  • Jaded Sweetness says:

    Well my genetics suck!

  • mirra says:

    a little confused on why you have to be fit/skinny to make friends

  • RoseKitty says:

    This Is Fat Kinda Fat Shaming Saying That Fat Is Not Attractive Im Not Fat But That Mustve Triggered A Lot of people

  • New 2 Animation says:

    How do we even understand that these things = value and worth as a human being? It could just mean value and importance to society or certain people

  • New 2 Animation says:

    Lmao this video just reminded me how worthless I am :''')))

  • Odelya Grace says:

    Omg when is the next episode (body language) coming?

  • Priyanka Datta says:

    When’s the next video ?

  • Jansonxs says:

    This is just making me feel bad about myself xD

  • Daisy Goodwin says:

    Come onnnn when is the next video of this series coming out?

  • Aurøra_ The_ Cambiøn says:

    Your worth is not determined by your money, clothes, mannerisms, social status or health. That’s so dumb. You could have just been born into a poor family, it’s not your fault if your parents can’t afford awesome clothes. Stuff like how open you are and artificial stuff like that should not even be a factor. If you have insomnia then it’s not your fault if you look tired. We all have value, it’s all in your character. Not social status.

  • Random Ideas says:

    where's #5 at doe

  • Vĩ Phạm says:

    Hi, I watched a lot of your videos and I like them
    Can you continue the bee friend please?

  • S T Ξ Λ L T H says:

    3

  • Fatiha Taheya says:

    I come here every once in a while to see in the next video is out. Nope. Nope it's not. K bye

  • Bad Guy Forever says:

    How to stay positive knowing you don't live in an ideal world

  • Fernando Freire says:

    Wheres the next lesson?

  • Carol F says:

    This is so shallow. Honestly, you’ll make 20 “friends” this way, and still be lonely. This video makes me cringe.

  • Sean Challenger says:

    Where is that lesson 5?! Haha im addicted to this series

  • Slimbo 78 says:

    When does the next video in this course come out?

  • Aryan Gaikwad says:

    Anyone still on NoFap challenge ?

  • Dick Grason says:

    You should do a video on teaching us how to think instead of what to think

  • sedameansstrong says:

    Is this video mainly directed to men? Because I believe a higher voice is a bit more attractive 🤔 no?

  • Nombre Apellidos says:

    what happened?? why you dont upload more videos of this course? it as really interesting

  • Brynna Wenz says:

    It’s crushing to know that looking sick/tired lowers how other people perceive you. “Hit the gym, improve your diet” what if I’m chronically ill? I’m constantly fatigued and in pain. I am sick, and that’s just how things are. I’m still beautiful & worthy but I know in social situations people notice how “unhealthy” I look:

  • SaE says:

    after seeing this video im feeling worthless…

  • Rainer Schwachsinn says:

    Thats not the Improvement Pill I know. The Improvement Pill from the older Videos didnt tell its viewers to get fashionable clothing to gain friends, but to let the self esteem make its Impression on others

  • Moshe Telesh says:

    Is there gonna be more videos on this coarse?

  • Terry H. says:

    This is literally a video about social capital. It's something that comes from capitalism. It's not hardwired into the human brain (atleast not this much). Humans aren't inherently this shallow.

  • Gabriel Maximus says:

    If someone makes fun of someone im likely to eye roll or suggest they get therapy.
    I end friendships as soon as I'm disrespected with no apology, especially if it wasn't accidental.
    I only allow that behaviour for animals and kids when they're learning how to interact with others.
    I'm not popular. But I'm more valuable to myself than a lot of people are to me… so I've got that going on 🤔

  • Gianni Squats says:

    People are such sheep

  • *Steel Beam* says:

    My life is so boring that any other person of my age would think I'm pathetic.

    I won't have any friends anymore. Let alone a significant other. What would anyone want to do with me, if they can meet anybody else?

    I want to simply stop having thoughts of "having friends". Then I will be content with my garbage life.

  • Daniel Torres says:

    Improvement pill- when are you going to come out with your next Bee Friend video? Love the course so far!

  • R!dersWorld 1999 says:

    Lightweight version of the 48 laws of power.😂

  • Aditya Sengupta says:

    When is the next video coming out?

  • Madam B says:

    Looking forward for lesson 5!

  • MexicanO Glover says:

    Wait r u domics?

  • chitra guha says:

    Haha this is so controversial! I love it. 😋😁

  • |Jake|C| says:

    How do you befriend people? Increase your worth!

    How do you increase worth? Befriend people!

  • KESHAV SHARMA says:

    how to make videos like this on a phone??????

  • Kostandinos Kellciu says:

    If you have a Valium it would be at least 1000

  • Puya says:

    Bad choice of words to say „value“ in my opinion. Made me block the content of the video at first, but I agree to the concept.

  • Dregorin says:

    Aye Improvement Pill, if you read this, I still love majority of your videos, just this series is plain wrong to me and I want to express my opinion on it.

    People who are watching these videos are genuinly so desperate for solutions to their loneliness that they try to be entirely different human beings when they just need to change the people they sorround themselves with.

    All the people you will attract with methods like these, are people you don't want to be friends with anyway. Hence, thats why you aren't. And if you somehow believe you need to be friends with them, than pls rationalize why you should and why no other person on this planet can refill that spot. No – other – person. Complete BS.

    I've been in this hole for quite some time as well and I did a lot of this crap as well. At least I tried. And it changed almost nothing. Primarily because it is wayyyy too hard to apply everything you get told to do. You surely can do quite some of them, but the majority won't be applicable.
    I've made a lot of friends in new places. Where I was doing stuff that I love to do. If people feel that you have passion and some genuine interest in stuff, they will like to listen to you. They will ask questions and they will want to interactive with you. And all you need to do for that, is doin what you love, with people that are new to you.

    And now tell me what you guys are doing what you couldn't somewhere public. If you wank off all day and thats your genuine passion then search for people who organize wanking sessions. If you don't find one, then be the founder of your local wanking session club. Meet people. Until you found those who you want to spend time with. You'll get a boost in self-confidence automaticly, cuz you can start to converse with people about subjects of your interest.

    Volunteer work for whatever you'd like is always a way to meet people doing stuff that you like. I've been taking care of dogs at an animal shelter and met a lot of different people there, that are my friends today. Just to give you guys an Idea.

    I spend the last 4 years of my life trying to improve any aspect of myself but what really helped, was this simple thing.
    Feel free to write something.

  • Ryan McCauley says:

    Iv been using your method of climber to socialize with new people and have found that it gets me to a much stronger relationship very quickly and now I am able to network much. thank you

  • Far away says:

    you know your value is zero when you ask someone to send you notes and they reply "sure , I'll send it in a few minutes " and its the next day and you're wondering if they are gonna send it and say something like "sorry for the delay"
    but they never do……..

  • Msmi Beauty says:

    I've been watching these and realized that I am the reason to have no friends.

  • The Truth says:

    Great vid, thank you!

  • Paul Alderman says:

    Ik wil meer waardheid hebben, omdat ik will een better vriend zijn. Een zwake man kan niemand helpen.

  • Alucard . D .hellsing says:

    Lol humans are so shallow let's just nuke them

  • _Grayven says:

    It's simple.
    Die.
    People usually acknowledge someone's/something's worth after they lose them/it.

  • oOoOoOo Bubbles says:

    Speak for yourself.

  • Its Me Kelly says:

    Next year im heading to college(grade 7 in my country) and my exited, because for some reason, i was the most well known kid and everyone started to hate me. I still dont get it. Wish you guys luck

  • Laura Middag says:

    What if you literally feel exhausted by having to maintain a ton of relationships, and just feel happy with having a solid group of great friends? Other people might perceive you to have less worth but that doesn't mean you should think that of yourself.

  • Laura Middag says:

    You mention celebrities, which is a little ironic because they sometimes have some of the most trouble deciphering who their real friends actually are. People may be drawn to you because of your status or who you know, but are they really drawn to you for genuine reasons and will those reasons benefit you long term? Or are we just treating people as commodities?

  • Slime Monster 379 says:

    UR SO COOL! WHERE DO U LEARN THIS?! U r like so intelligent and like help me learn so much!! Love you!!!!

  • cha cha says:

    this just made me depressed lol

  • Bas X says:

    This is very narrowminded to say the least. Expressing somebody's "value" like that. I think that having the same value is more important it make you feel like you have something in common. For instance millonaires are more likely to have friends that are also millionaires. And most often both partners like to have a comparable value in looks and finance.

  • Potatony says:

    Lmfao "how to increase my worth"
    But those who belive this bs worth 0 bucks

  • Potatony says:

    Tell me something new kid i already know all of that

  • c g says:

    nurses are as valuable as a doctor..

  • Marcos Vinicius says:

    This video just prove how shallow human beings are.
    Basically the only things humans care are looks and status.

  • -FUN MEMES- says:

    Looks don't matter said once a wise man

  • † Jzilla † says:

    If your face is asymmetrical also grow a beard, if possible. It helps to hide it and makes you more attractive

  • She who animates says:

    My value is -1

  • C Hanson says:

    I am Doctoral graduate of psychology. A lot of the information provided on this channel is pop psychology. Meaning, it’s not based on psychological theory. What separates a person with an opinion from one with a facts is empirical evidence. Psychology is based on empirical evidence and data. This video maker is just opinionated and relays pop psychology for entertainment. Every person is different and not all gestures, body language and behavior mean the same thing for everyone

  • Nikola Prolić says:

    Looks
    Status
    Career
    Social proof (how many friends you already have and also how well known you are)

  • Peter Nguyen says:

    6:31 is Frame the same thing as self-control. If someone calls you insultingly, or a car cuts you off, ignoring it means you are unaffected but you are also able to control your resulting emotions and actions.

  • fusa bufa says:

    Great content , but why so fast…??

  • Queenofhearts 22 says:

    Omg im always crossing my arms when talking with people im not close with but if im with my family or close friends they're never crossed and im always using them along with my talking. Wow that was a big realization for me 😂👍

  • 3rdINFINITE says:

    So I'm basically worthless

  • 3rdINFINITE says:

    So I'm basically worthless

  • Trailtracker says:

    Ive always had problems with value cause I’m boring

  • Bob Ross says:

    Really though the most important thing is how you value yourself, not how other people view you 🙂

  • Artificial Idiot says:

    Bill Gate befriend people 100times more than me

  • The Cookie Girl Gamer says:

    I just got body shamed in this vid tbh and now im sad.

  • Oh my Gaho says:

    6:00 bruh. no wonder like all chill dudes i know have rolling deep careless whisper like voices

  • Tao Nga Gwapo says:

    Finally,something I could do to my parents

  • Miguel Covarrubias-Conde says:

    Or just do what I do. Be your self

  • Mohammed Rowdi says:

    This is so low consciousness…

  • shawarmageddonit says:

    Okay dude, you seriously need to PAUSE.
    YOUR.
    SENTENCES.
    I'm halfway through this course, and the talking is literally CONSTANT. Take a breather, man!

  • RedMastePoke says:

    Spanish please

  • Zefra says:

    Does Free Counts?

  • cetar bahana says:

    Physical attractiveness
    Fashion
    Wealthy status
    Career
    Relationship

  • *love & Peace is never guaranteed says:

    This by far the most stupidest video improvement pill has made smh.

  • e t h e r e a l says:

    4:46 Hey! Last week I walked into a room with my friends inside. Very loudly they screamed my name.Helped me a lot.

  • ccl lerk says:

    Mr. Improvement pill, I want to ask if having some knowledge like knowing the latest news and stuffs in school increase a person's worth? And maybe it relates with the "career" point?

  • Kausar Meutuwah says:

    Okay thats nice, but now how would we know which friend is fake?

  • Tropical StormXoX says:

    All of this sounds so superficial and beneath my dignity but I realise that if I want my life to improve I need to make these changes

  • kiranbala devi says:

    do u hav any video on demeanor? i am interested to know more about this

  • Michael Chimdike Atuegwu says:

    That just rubbish

  • Luis Lujan says:

    This is why people develop low self esteem. Because they really believe self worth is based on outside factors.

  • Dragonshot67 8 says:

    Dude, this is so great. This is basically learning how to make friends for people who are really intelligent when it comes to most things but idiots to the basic things. Aka me. Also I’m partially a visual learner so the color coding in this entire thing seems like professional teaching. Great job bro.

  • soumya chauhan says:

    Having self respect is much more important than seeking people's attention 😎🤘🏻

  • cathartic reverie says:

    idk I feel like this doesn't work if the other person's value is too out of your league. Like even with your own rules, why would someone with high value want to be friends with some peon, some low-class peasant with no value? They might talk with you if you go up to them, but they're not going to consider you in their friend category if you've got nothing to offer them in return. It's easier to become friends with someone who is in your own league, someone who can see you as relatable.

  • Kazoo says:

    This seems like a very shallow and wrong way to view other people and yourself, but it’s the reality

  • Orbite flow says:

    The ultimate worth is your skill.

  • Blancc says:

    Negative infinity

  • JM Art Draws says:

    What about confidence? Is that accounted for in people’s value?

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